An easy prescription for self love

The expression ‘self-love’ is tossed around quite carelessly today in daily conversation and is most often confused with narcissism but, to fully understand the concept of self-love you must first come to terms with what it is not.

Self love is not something you can buy in a beauty make over or a new designer collection wardrobe. Neither is it a quality one can easily derive from motivational quotes and inspirational garbage being tossed all over the internet these days. It is also certain that you cannot love others enough until you love yourself and are comfortable in your own company.

Self love is full appreciation of one’s self enough to enjoy being alone without need for company of others while having a healthy balance in social interaction where you do not completely cut yourself from friends and family.

Sadly, a lot of people do not feel good about who they are and often throw shade on their appearances and capabilities for reasons of physical flaws or/and social deficiencies.

This situation that many find themselves however is not hopeless and there are easy remedies to build your self esteem, embrace these flaws and deficiencies and begin to fully appreciate who you are and what you have to offer as an individual. Hence, here is your easy prescription for self love;

– Take care of yourself everyday for the rest of your life. Good food and daily exercise will boost your morale and keep you in the right frame of mind for whatever you have to face in your work and personal relationships.

– Protect yourself. Beware of fake friends (people who hang around you only for what they can get and turn away when the going gets tough). You must surround yourself with the right people who love and respect you for exactly who you are.

– Live with purpose and design. You will accept and love yourself more, whatever is happening in your life, when you live intentionally.

– Learn to forgive yourself. A lot of times we tend to be too hard on ourselves for mistakes we make in learning and growing. Do not forget that there is no such thing as a complete failure.

– Remain focused on what you need rather than what you want. You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead.

It is hoped that in not overdosing on this prescription or abandoning it along the line you find the self love that you need to live a winning life.

To your success,

Susan Delano Swim